Remember the advertisement?
“Maybe she’s born with it. Maybe it’s Maybelline.”
We knew that it was Maybelline cosmetics. It was obvious.
But what about when we make assumptions about who people are?
When we see a person that is well put together and seems to be handling everything so well, despite all that is going on in the world, we easily imagine that they are just the sort of person who finds it easy and doesn’t struggle. We easily imagine that they were just gifted with incredible skills, habits or energy. But that is very rarely the case.
In the everyday scenario, we are most likely to forget that people weren’t born exactly how they are as adults now. Maybe they had to work hard, change their habits, and life-hack themselves into the people they are today.
We have all learnt everything we know; we weren’t born with the skill of being organized or integrity or strong resilience. These skills and habits were formed by the experiences that we went through, or the values we have in our lives that shaped our decisions.
We see people with chronic pain who look normal on the outside and it is assumed that their pain is not as bad as they say it is because they are not writhing on the floor screaming. How we see people on medical tv shows and the portrayal of pain is rarely accurate. People with chronic pain or conditions have trained themselves to manage and still be able to function.
We are all capable of change.
It can look like it comes naturally, but we are all trained to be how we are. The good news is that we can re-train ourselves to be the person we want, need or desire to be.
Maybe someone worked really hard to develop habits that helped them, and diminished the habits that didn’t help them. Working on getting rid of things that don’t propel them forward. Years of hard work, dedication, effort, commitment, and consistent choices.
Some people make certain skills and habits look effortless, but it may have taken a lot of work to be that way. Don’t get distracted by how it can appear to be. You can also be like that, just don’t get caught up in admiring and talking about it, you need to take action to achieve that change. You are capable of being the person you want to be.
There is a journey of curation behind every person.
Take care, Readers. I’ll keep the light on.